TP who I would describe as a coward, because in my opinion, the person who cannot face to own mistakes or admit what the self doesn’t know is a coward. The person who rejects learning from others in order to protect own identity, which no one was threatening it until TP started building a wall around against learning. I have learned a lot about human being from this experience with TP. So how am I solving this problem with being human being? If I am not able to change this person’s thinking or attitude or even the way of being, what I can do is to change myself. I realized that what I think is the mirror of what I get. I started looking for something good about this person, and input them into my conscious mind. Well, TP wasn’t aggressive and physically abusive, but TP was passive aggressive. But after that, Magical thing is most of everything went quite smoothly, although here and there, there was a moment I had to bite my lips.
One time, TP started telling me about how TP was growing up, and what kind of childhood it was for TP. That would helped me to understand why TP is like how TP is now. I did feel sorry for TP a little. It is not only TP’s fault; it is a TP’s parents’ responsibility in somewhere. TP never knew how to establish real friendship, and how to trust someone fully without protecting her identity. In another word, TP values being right more than friendship. TP will scarifys anyone who get in a way TP being right. I am sorry for TP.
My question is though; I am wondering how TP have come this far without being fully connected in community of practice.
Since last Friday, I am having hard time focusing on anything but my motherland; Japan. I am sorry but right now I cannot finish the blog I stared last week. I can say this though that I am glad I have written about Japan in last blog, I can clearly see the same attitude they have toward to “creating good products” (Clark, 1983) is there in Japanese people right now who are helping each other emotionally and physically. I like to tell you here again Gregory Clark HERE who was co-editor of the book; The Dawn of Tradition said in editorial,
“In Particular, when it comes to getting people working and making things, the Japanese ‘talent’ has very real advantages. There is the natural emphasis on group cooperation; you do not work simply to better your own position and prospects. There is a ‘simple’ pleasure in creating good products…there is a the concept of the work unit as ……community with a shared destiny”
(My husband just mentioned to me that the reason why I could not believe there was the person like TP exists in this society is because I am coming from the society which values so much in relationship and trust, and TP is very opposite of it. )
I am very proud of my country how they are handling this huge crisis. There is no violence or any riots that I can see from here, and I believe it is a sign of very civilized society they have over there. We all know, Fukushima Nuclear Power Plant is the most important thing for them to put it under control over there right now, and whether they should have that kind of power plants in a country like Japan or not is a different discussion at this moment, I am sure there will be time for them and whole the world to look at this point. But right now, I am praying for them to put that under control and also there is no more a big earthquake coming after this. I am praying for them to have time to clean up and deal with emotional trauma.
You have great reason to feel such a sense of pride for your country...My thoughts and prayers are with everyone who has been affected by this horrific disaster.
ReplyDeleteMy deepest sorrow and sympathy for the current situation in Japan, I hope your family and relatives are in good health condition and able to coup with this crisis. Also, my heartfelt to the devastated people who loss their families. It is really a hard and difficult situation. I fully understand your feeling, I agree with you it is difficult to concentrate and focus on studying when the mind is scattered and busy with other essential issues. I have been in this situation since the security issues started in Cairo and Libya. I feel worse now with security issues in my home country Yemen. I wish to sit and watch the news the whole day; I can hardly work on my assignments. I hope the situation in the Middle East is getting better because people deserve democracy and to live a decent life.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I feel really sorry about what happened recently to your home country of Japan. It is a very bad situation that seems to be getting worse and worse each day, so I fully understand how you are unable to focus on your work right now. But you did actually finish your blog – you just shifted the perspective a bit. That was nice of your husband to make the connection between TP and Japanese culture and to point out how they are so different. I guess if a whole country full of TPs had an earthquake, tsunami and nuclear meltdown, they wouldn’t be doing as well as the Japanese, who value working together as a group in various communities of practice.
ReplyDeleteI understand how you are having trouble focusing on school work because something similar happened to me last month following a flood disaster in my hometown of Jeddah, Saudi Arabia. Although it doesn’t really compare with the huge disaster now taking place in Japan, the Jeddah flood also caused death and damages. At the moment I heard about it, I couldn’t do anything until I was assured that my family members in Jeddah were safe. I truly hope that your family and friends are safe in Japan.
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ReplyDeleteI feel very, very sorry about everything that is happening in Japan right now. My prayers are with you, and I hope with all my heart that the Japanese people can overcome this huge disaster. Secondly, you mention in the first part of your blog that you have had a negative experience with someone here in Nova Scotia, and I can relate very much to that. However, I also have to say that without negative experiences, you will not learn things you need to learn. Some of the best lessons that I have ever learned in my life so far have come from negative experiences I had with people I was connected to in friendship. There is an old saying that goes: “It takes the bad things to appreciate the good things.” So, I hope that all of your bad experiences over the past few months will someday turn into good things for you, your family, and your people. You deserve it! I know you will work very hard to make good things happen.
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